" A sure recipe for failure, if ever there was one. One that has to be sorted out before the marriage because it's not likely to be resolved afterwards.
Some of the issues were really trivial, and yet if he didn’t get his own way they could blow up into a major fight. We hadn’t been married very long before he started making demands. He wanted me to become active in the Church, which he had never even been interested in, or belonged to before we were married. He became very involved himself and expected me to do the same. Initially, I thought he was having an epiphany, but after a while I began to realize that he saw it more as a step to success, than anything else. Kenny was an accountant doing okay, but certainly not setting the world on fire, and I think he thought being perceived as a family man might help him. I had my own career which I certainly thought no less important than his. But other than my bringing home my pay packet to share in the house expenses he didn't seem interested."
"And how was your sex life?' I asked.
Her father busied himself filling his pipe and trying to move out of ear shot.
"Not that great, but it did exist." she responded, and added, "I did let him know that on a couple of occasions and I guess that didn't help very much."
“No, it wouldn't" I couldn’t help observing..
So this was the best way to wind it up quickly.
Said I, “Look, I didn’t do everything right, and tended to take the line of least resistance a lot of the time, that’s my problem that I have to deal with – but there’s no way I can blame my parents for that, and equally there is no way you can blame yours. If you’re frustrated with them for not being more assertive and more to your liking that’s your right, but don’t blame them for your problems. And, believe me, you have no idea what they are going to be, yet. They might just make ours seem mild. Remember, the secret of a successful life is not necessarily to be dealt a great hand, but to play the hand you were dealt the best possible way.